The Beauty of the Softened Heart
There is much in the world that can keep us apart from the beauty, joy and peace of a softened heart. There are many patterns we hold, many ways of being and relating that have been modelled to us, that can convince us to harden and create defences around the tenderness of our feminine heart.
Yet on this path of feminine restoration, returning to the softened heart that is inherent in our most organic embodiment of Feminine Being, becomes the deeper desire that propels us to move gently through the heavy tethers and shields that keep us defensive, protective and hardened to life.
It is a desire that does not have its roots in ‘getting’ something as a result of this softening. It is not fuelled by wanting to appear a certain way.
It is just simply a deep desire to live a life that is fuelled by joy, innocence, tenderness and love. A desire to not let anything break or impede the sensitivities of the heart that allow us to deeply commune with Life. To perceive life relationally, not transactionally. To see beauty everywhere. To forgive. To love. To deepen into God.
What I have found though, is that we will usually come across countless opportunities where it can feel easier to harden our hearts rather than continuing to softly re-orient our attention towards tending to this deeper feminine connection that is received through the unspoken energies of our heart.
Many of us have found it necessary to protect ourselves in this world, building up ways of being that keep us apart from the deep sensitivities of our feminine hearts.
Because with softness, comes tenderness. And with tenderness, comes openness. And with openness comes a feminine receptivity that can be overwhelming to soften into. With receptivity comes the illumination of our imperfections, the humanness of our being, the emotions, the wounds, the pain, the realities of suffering in this realm that we may have shielded for some time.
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Something I see in a lot through my work is the woman who has shielded herself up with her intellect, her achievements, her resourcefulness, her outward roles, her articulate expression, her responsibilities, her ticking of the external boxes- yet inside holds a deeply sensitive, perceptive, tender heart. A heart that can find it difficult to traverse the hardness of the world if not properly equipped.
Which means that when a woman begins to consciously uncover the deeper essence of her feminine being, she also begins to recover the deeper desires and sensitivities of her heart…
If you’d like to read more, the rest of this writing is now available in the ‘Soften & Bloom’ ebook.
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hi, i’m belinda
Writer and founder of Soul & Self, an online space for women to reclaim their feminine nature, recognise their true value and restore their natural gifts, pace and path. If you’re a deep-hearted woman wanting to soften into your femininity, a gentle solopreneur craving respite from the ‘shoulds’ of the business world, or a feminine creative longing to share and sell your gifts in a softer way, you’re in the right place. Start here.