Creating Change and Getting Unstuck (the feminine way)

As a woman with a feminine core, many of the ways you’ve been taught to “fix”, grow and heal in life, may not actually be supporting your deeper essence and true unfolding.

Especially in the healing and personal development world, so much of what’s out there is keeping more feminine-oriented beings looping in cycles of striving, feeling confused and trying to fix themselves, instead of living, loving and creating from their deeper feminine value.

The idea that we should all be living, growing and achieving in a certain way is so damaging to us, especially as women. Because when this pressure builds up from the expectations of the external world, our energy shifts into freeze mode.

Which results in a feeling of feeling stuck and confused (and then usually unworthy because we berate ourselves for being stuck!).

For most of our lives, it’s been unconsciously modelled to us that the way to create changes in our lives is to force, push, chase and strive. So when we feel stuck, this is the natural pattern we default into.

But trying to shift things in this way when that internal pressure has built up, just adds more pressure.

You know those doors that have the pressure gauge so they don’t fling open and shut? Have you ever tried to force one of those to move? Adding pressure does nothing but make you feel frustrated and unable to control it. It’s only when you release the pressure that it naturally moves, in it’s own good time.

This is like us. We have a natural pace, and pushing and forcing ourselves doesn’t do anything except make us feel frustrated and stuck.

When we attempt to push what doesn’t need to be pushed, it leads us into a state of trying to fix. But the feminine nature doesn’t want to be fixed. She wants to be seen, understood and nurtured. If we ignore this need, we become trapped in a cycle of trying to fix something that was never broken- struggling to reach a level of perfection and healing that doesn’t actually exist.

Moving out of feeling stuck as a woman, means remembering that our inherent nature holds our true value, not the external things we do in the world. Trying to manipulate things in the external world will end up feeling heavy and futile if we don’t have this connection with our interior world.

Which means that if you’re feeling stuck in your life right now, instead of forcing yourself to find solutions and “fix” yourself, you may instead need to soften into yourself, allowing yourself to remember that there is no rush (even though you’ve been conditioned to believe that there always is).

You are allowed to slow down and rest in your softness. You don’t need to “fix” yourself. You are not wrong for not knowing or understanding everything. You’re allowed to relax into yourself and be loved and supported. You don’t need to do things alone to prove your competence and grit.

So often, what’s actually keeping us stuck are the subconscious beliefs we have about what we think we “should” be doing in the world. Which can keep us frozen and looping in confusion, lack and doubt, unsure as to why nothing seems to be changing.

This is so much harder if you’re a woman whose natural way of being seems to be in opposition to what society has taught you to strive for.

So many times in my own life I’ve fallen into thinking that I should be some-one that I’m not, just to appease the unspoken (and often spoken!) expectations that I’ve been taught to take on.

When you’re a sensitive soul this can feel even more intense, as you feel these expectations even more deeply.

If this sounds familiar, and you’d like more support softening into your feminine value, and untangling these subconscious expectations, start here to learn more.

x

Belinda