Signs You’re a Woman Being Called Back to Your Feminine Essence
The hyper-masculinised focus of our world has taught us that it is safer and more productive to override our hearts and protect our feminine essence with masculine shields.
Yet many soul-oriented women who have been heavily conditioned to live within the constraints of masculine success, are now feeling the heavy tendrils of feminine longing.
For the women drawn to my writings, there are some common feelings that arise as they seek to reconnect with their feminine essence and soften into a life that feels more fulfilling to their soul.
These include:
A tugging at your heart, telling you that there’s a different way to live and be.
A feeling of exhaustion from being at the whim of the striving, grinding culture that has become so normal in the world
A desire for deep fulfilment, purpose and love- without having to compromise your integrity and heart
Feeling disillusioned with healing modalities and personal development tools that subtly fall into the same old striving paradigm (aka you need to do the work to be enough)
Becoming overwhelmed with putting so much pressure on yourself to figure everything out
Feeling mentally burnt out from over intellectualising your feelings and emotions
Always seeking out new ways to overcome your perceived deficits.
A longing to be deeply loved, seen and supported, without having to perform, earn your worth, over give and over work
A craving for deeper intimacy, belonging and emotional connection
A longing for deeper spiritual connection, yet feeling put off by performance, hardened dogma or a lack of unforced femininity within spiritual paths and circles
A yearning to be supported, valued and truly loved, for being your natural self.
If this is you, you’re not alone.
So many women are craving this. Yet our culture is one where so many of the attributes that are vital to the feminine nature are seen as not enough. Relationship, receptivity, surrender, ease, beauty, rest. We are not taught to cultivate and value these as necessary. They are add ons. The things we can have AFTER we’ve done the work and achieved the things. Or, they’re things that need to be ‘done’ in order to be more productive or seem more externally pleasing.
Which means that our subconscious develops deep beliefs around always needing to strive. To be more.
To be different…better…more worthy in the eyes of the world.
To reject the feminine and spiritual essence at our core.
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All of this leads women into feelings of self-doubt, inner tension and loneliness.
A deep (yet often unconscious) sense of abandoning what is true and natural, to please the outside world.
An emptiness that can’t be fulfilled by jobs, partners, possessions, achievements, children…
The heart becomes inadvertently hardened to protect against the grief of not feeling allowed to rest in your essence.
And THIS, is the core of why we so deeply crave feminine healing.
Because when the heart is closed, this blocks off so much.
Love, freedom, radiance, ease, possibility.
Connection to truth, beauty, spiritual essence.
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A feminine heart tangled in the grief of not feeling safe to exist in her true essence, makes it feel so hard to soften into true love and purpose that goes beyond external circumstances.
And relying only on healing modalities that attempt to “fix” you (like many conventional healing and spiritual modalities do) will always fall short, because they inadvertently perpetuate the rejection of your feminine essence.
Which is why the feminine path is not about doing and being more, but is instead about coming into a deeper acceptance around the parts of you that have been pushed down and seen as not enough.
It is a path of renewing your relationship with your deeper soul, as you tenderly release what was never meant for you.
It is a path of finally dissolving the tensions around your heart that have been constraining your feminine soul and keeping you apart from creating, expressing, and living a life of creativity, joy, beauty, depth and heart.
Belinda x
hi, i’m belinda
Writer and founder of Soul & Self, an online space for women to reclaim their feminine nature, recognise their true value and restore their natural gifts, pace and path. If you’re a deep-hearted woman wanting to soften into your femininity, a gentle solopreneur craving respite from the ‘shoulds’ of the business world, or a feminine creative longing to share and sell your gifts in a softer way, you’re in the right place. Start here.