Healing the Martyr Wound to Restore Your Feminine Energy

A belief that runs deeply in the feminine being is the idea that she is responsible for everyone and everything. I spoke of this in my writing exploring the trap of the sensitive, capable woman, and I have seen how so many women drawn to the nature of the feminine are grappling with this belief in some or all areas of their lives.

This collective belief can be referred to as The Martyr Wound, and it’s something that sits in the cells of most women due to the conditioning and expectations that have been a part of our lives, and the lives of our mothers, grandmothers and female ancestors.

The martyr wound is what makes women feel overly responsible for the world around them. It tethers a woman to external expectations and diminishes the natural expression of her femininity.

Because while a woman may have a natural desire to help, serve and nurture, if this desire isn’t anchored in a strong sense of intrinsic worth, then the desire can become distorted, cutting a woman off from her feminine essence.

When a woman doesn’t feel and believe in the value she intrinsically holds, she seeks externally to be validated through what she can do for others.

She starts basing her value on how needed she is, which activates patterns of over giving, overcompensating and sacrificing her true nature.

Instead of walking the path of the feminine that she has been naturally gifted, she unconsciously burdens herself with needing to change, fix, help and manage others…

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